Its simple, Use your real name, but then use a fake address, however use a ZIP code that is in the same state as you.
Then get an online account with capital one, I'm sure American express will offer a similar deal.
Use your real name on that, and real address etc, then verify your paypal with that.
Then use this system,
Donation > Paypal > Online account i.e American Express > Real bank account
Its a good system, it works and its alot more secure than your real address being posted.
Just keep under their radar, it does not matter how much money you transfer (providing your verified), just dont bring attention to your account, with disputes over nothing and so on.
Thats my advice, choose to follow at your own risk